We get to choose…..being joyful or being miserable

I have been reflecting recently about people I have known who are intent on living a joyful life, and those whom go to great lengths to ensure the opposite. We humans are each granted free will to live our lives as we choose. Long ago I heard that I can choose to get off the “elevator “ on any floor meaning I can make the choice to stop where I am, or I can continue riding that spiritual elevator all the way to the top floor, loving every part of the journey!

 

To guarantee an unhappy, miserable life we can:

-Remain in fear, seeing the world as unsafe, hopeless, and a place where dreams are lost, and promises are not kept.

-Continually analyze your motives and actions,and  never actually change anything or put another way, continue to disempower, not empower your life.

-Adamantly believe your way or ideas are the only way to live your life, and you not only do not listen to the perceptions/suggestions of others, you refuse to act on anyone ideas other than your own.

Your goal is to please everyone so that you will be liked and validated so you run around asking the opinions others have , refusing to listen to your intuitive messages.

Believing your happiness and joy is contingent on how much money you have, how many activities you pursue, how much education you have completed, who your partner is, the number of pounds you weigh, your dress size, etc. In other words, you believe joy will come from anything you can dream of outside of yourself, never inside your sacred self!

Blame your family of origin, your partner or ex partner, your boss or anyone else for the reasons you are unhappy.

Establish a daily discipline of negative self talk that you review as often as possible, so that you can reinforce you are not good enough and never will be!

Never release your rage and anger and re-play the scene of what a victim you have been!

Refuse to stand up for what you believe; Do not ask that your needs be met, and never verbalize your wants and needs, especially to those close to you!

Never attempt to change your thoughts, beliefs, or actions that do not work in your life.

Actively participate in an addiction (alcoholic, drug addict, relationship addict, compulsive overeating or undereating, gambling, spending, sex, over exercising, etc.); if you cannot become an addict, stay in a relationship with one (and especially try to change him/her)

Avoid spirituality and belief in a power greater than yourself; furthermore, make yourself more important than anyone or any Creator!

Practice denial, self dishonesty, and point the finger at others by pointing out their issues or shortcomings, and never look at your own stuff!

 

The choice is always yours, and mine…. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? I choose happiness today and am grateful for all those people who are my spiritual teachers, especially those who show me how to prolong misery by their actions or inactions. I can go back there to that prior elevator floor that I got off of anytime I choose and pick up my previous tools of misery. What about your choices?

Walking Beside You on The Journey,

Jennye